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If your boyfriend of just four months proposed the adventure of a lifetime -- a year-long trip round the world with all expenses paid -- would you go?

Well, according to new survey by, Europe’s largest matchmaking service for singles wanting a committed relationship, British women may fantasize about a glamorous James Bond-style romance, but in reality they’d prefer job security, an accountant boyfriend and marriage over a high-octane adventure. Making that quantum (of solace) leap harder than we might imagine.

Of the 13,000 British people polled for online matchmaking service, only one in four (23% of men and 24% of women) said they would jump at the chance of such an adventure. The majority (55%) said they wouldn’t risk their job or give up their social life for a relationship of just four months’ standing. However, if their partner proposed marriage, one in three – 32% of women and 29% of men – would say yes to a lifetime of commitment.

British women are more likely to be impressed with a bunch of flowers, a nice restaurant, a weekend away, than by a fabulous adventure. Half of the women surveyed (52%) said they might consider the trip, but only if their boyfriend could guarantee their job, accommodation and financial security on their return. In these credit-crunched times, maybe it’s harder to throw caution to the winds.

Dr Victoria Lukats, psychiatrist and PARSHIP’s dating expert, commented:

“Whilst an all-expenses paid year-long adventure certainly has some appeal, it seems that for most people this would only be pure fantasy. Even in this hypothetical situation, perhaps even imagining the perfect partner in the scenario, the people who would openly throw caution to the wind are in the definite minority. It's also interesting that men would find the idea much more tempting than women. This survey shows that many people, especially women, find security and stability much more attractive than excitement, adventure and risk-taking.”

It turns out that British women in general don’t rate James Bond-style qualities as particularly attractive in a man. Yes, 56% see the appeal of a groomed, toned body, but only 39% of women are attracted to ruthlessness, 35% to a dominating personality, 22% by an alpha male, 13% by a high earner/over-achiever and 49% by a male protector. A mere 6% could deal with a womaniser.

*I wouldn’t give up my job for a James Bond style adventure with a person I’ve known for four months
London 57%, South 56%, Midlands & Wales 52%, North 56%, Scotland 56%

*I might consider the trip, but only if my job, accommodation and financial security could be guaranteed on my return.
London 50%, South 50%, Midlands & Wales 53%, North 45%, Scotland 48%

*I would hand in my notice and enjoy the adventure.
London 20%, South 26%, Midlands & Wales 25%, North 19%, Scotland 22%

- ENDS –

For more information, a copy of the report or case studies, please contact.

Penny Conway
Mobile: 07775 992350

About PARSHIP, the largest premium online matchmaking service in the UK, is specifically for people who are serious about forming a lasting relationship and is built on a rigorous personality profiling test that determines compatibility. It is the British subsidiary of Europe’s most successful serious online dating service, now with millions of members, predominantly affluent, educated men and women between 28 and 55 years old.

Since its launch in Germany in 2001, PARSHIP has successfully matched over ten thousands couples, and it now operates in 14 countries of Western Europe and also in Mexico.

PARSHIP GmbH is headquartered in Hamburg and is 87%-owned by Holtzbrinck networXs AG, part of the Georg von Holtzbrinck publishing group, one of Germany’s largest publishing companies with financial interests in more than 80 companies, including the Macmillan Group.

About the 2008 Singles Survey

For this study, conducted in October 2008, PARSHIP joined forces with the market research institute Innofact to survey more than 13,000 people aged between 18 and 59, single and in long-term relationships, in 13 Western European countries. The study focuses on the topics of lifestyle, relationships, looking for a partner and online dating, embracing more than 100 different themes. The random sample in each country was identically structured in terms of age and gender, with a 50/50 split between: male and female respondents; single people/partnered people; the 18-39 and 40-59 age groups. The survey covered: Austria, Belgium, Denmark, France, Germany, Ireland, Italy, the Netherlands, Norway, Spain, Sweden, Switzerland, and the UK.

About Dr Victoria Lukats, MBBS MRCPsych MSc

As well as working as a dating expert for PARSHIP, Dr Victoria Lukats is a specialist registrar within the NHS. She graduated with a medicine degree from King's College London in 1998, is a member of the Royal College of Psychiatrists and has a Masters Degree in Mental health from King's College London. In addition, she writes an agony aunt column on relationships and dating for a national newspaper and is a spokesperson for Psychologies magazine. Dr Lukats is regularly asked to comment and provide advice on large range of relationship topics in the media and her expert opinion often draws on her medical background and therefore combines both science and psychology to provide clarity and greater understanding to the audience.

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