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A new study by the online dating service gay-PARSHIP has revealed that no longer do straight women have a monopoly on the gay best friend -- as portrayed in Will & Grace, Sex and the City and Brothers and Sisters. Apparently straight men want one too!

Famous straight/gay pairings include David Walliams and Matt Lucas, and Justin Lee Collins and Alan Carr – but now it looks like there now aren’t enough gay men to go round!

The average Briton counts 4.6 people as good friends – in other words, people they wouldn’t hesitate to call in a moment of crisis. Two thirds (67%) say they would like to expand their network of friends in the near future, but they do not limit their options to people of the same sex or sexual persuasion.

According to the survey of 1,300 British singles by gay-PARSHIP – the gay arm of Europe’s largest premium online matchmaker, a pioneer in the use of a scientific compatibility test to match potential couples – nearly a third of straight men (29%) said they’d like to expand their social network to include a platonic gay best friend: 25% would like a friendship with a gay man and 32% with a lesbian. At present just one in ten straight men can count a gay man or woman as a good friend, with less than one in 100 claiming more than two close gay friends. Straight women, with an average of 4.7 good friends, are twice more likely to have a gay best friend than men; one in five women (22%) include a gay man in their inner circle while 12% have friends who are lesbians.

Dr Nafsika Thalassis, psychologist PARSHIP’s dating expert, commented:

“With so many gay and straight friendships now portrayed in the media the majority of straight men don’t feel threatened in the company of gay men and can see that genuine friendships are possible as well as rewarding. Although this survey shows a positive shift in the attitudes of straight men, there is still a large proportion, 88%, who do not count a gay man among their close friends, with 35% of single men preferring to stick with a heterosexual framework.”

Whether you’re looking for friendship or love, has been created to take the pot luck out of first dates. It matches its members by means of a scientific compatibility test, rather than leaving them to judge each other purely on self-descriptions and photographs. This ensures that PARSHIP members who meet on a first date are more likely to feel at ease which each other, which is a pre-requisite for a successful long-term friendship or relationship.

Even in this age of the internet and social networking sites, for many gay men and women meeting other gay people for lasting friendships and relationships is proving difficult. Gay men and women are just as likely to have close friendships with heterosexuals as they are with other gay people. Therefore it’s hardly surprising that for most the emphasis is on meeting other gay not straight people. Overall 52% gay men would especially like to meet other gay men, compared to just 2% who want to make friendships with other straight men and 9% with women. Likewise, 55% of lesbians would prefer to make friendships with other lesbians, 8% men and 4% straight women.

Among their close friends, gay men count on average 1.7 gay men, 1.2 straight men and 2.4 gay and straight women. For gay women, the figures are 2.7 straight women, 1.3 lesbians and just 1.2 gay or straight men.

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For more information, a copy of the report or case studies, please contact.

Penny Conway
UK: +44 (0)20 7014 4046
Mobile: +44 (0)7775 992350

About PARSHIP, the largest premium online matchmaking service in the UK, is specifically for people who are serious about forming a lasting relationship and is built on a rigorous personality profiling test that determines compatibility. It is the British subsidiary of Europe’s most successful serious online dating service, now with millions of members, predominantly affluent, educated men and women between 28 and 55 years old.

Since its launch in 2001, PARSHIP has successfully matched tens of thousands of couples, and it now operates in 14 countries of Western Europe and also in Mexico

PARSHIP GmbH is headquartered in Hamburg and is 87%-owned by Holtzbrinck networXs AG, part of the Georg von Holtzbrinck publishing group, one of Germany’s largest publishing companies with financial interests in more than 80 companies, including the Macmillan Group.

About the PARSHIP Survey

To establish the social networks of single people in Britain, PARSHIP surveyed a random sample of 1,300 members in May 2009. The respondents were aged between 18 and 70, split equally between male and female, heterosexual and gay, and based in the UK.

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