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The results of our survey challenge the commonly held view that men are necessarily more adulterous than women.

LONDON, UK: 30 April 2012, a dating website for married people seeking extra-marital affairs, has published a new survey revealing surprising differences in the cheating habits of the UK’s male and female philanderers.

Undercover Lovers questioned 4,000 of its members (2,000 male and 2,000 female) for its UK Adultery Survey 2012, in which the adulterous behaviour and attitudes of men and women are compared. The most astonishing fact to emerge is that Britain’s female adulterers are apparently more promiscuous than their male counterparts, having had on average 2.3 affair partners compared to the mere 1.8 of Undercover Lovers’ male members.

Undercover Lovers spokesperson Emily Pope comments: ‘The results of our survey challenge the commonly held view that men are necessarily more adulterous than women. Once they have made the huge decision to have an affair, women have far more opportunity to actually find someone to cheat with and are generally in control of deciding if and when to consummate the relationship once they do. It is a feature of all dating websites that women are spoilt for choice of male suitors.’

The survey also reveals dramatically different reasons between men and women for having an affair. Whilst men cited the pursuit of sexual excitement, boredom with their marriages and the need of an ego boost as their main reasons for cheating, women were more likely to be seeking emotional fulfilment, an improvement to their self esteem and romance when they strayed. Female adulterers are also far more prone to falling in love with their affair partner than their male equivalents.

Emily Pope says: ‘More and more neurological research is revealing that male and female brains are programmed differently when it comes to relationships. The results of our survey bear this out, with our adulteresses seemingly seeking something far more emotionally meaningful from their affairs than their male partners.’

Other intriguing facts to emerge from the survey are:

• The vast majority of male and female philanderers think that monogamy is an unnatural state for humans.
• Women are likely to be the first to get itchy feet in the marriage. Whilst unfaithful men do not have their first affair until almost 6 years of married life, on average female cheaters stray just 5 years after exchanging their wedding vows.
• The majority of UK adulterers still love their spouses and have no intention of getting divorced.
• Women are far more likely to tell someone else about their affair than men.
• Adulteresses tend to be significantly younger than adulterers.
• The vast majority of cheaters are having their affairs in secret, unbeknown to their husband or wife.
• Many adulterers are hypocrites! Over 40% of female cheaters and almost 30% of male cheaters would ask for a divorce if they discovered their spouse was having an affair.

The UK Adultery Survey 2012

How old are you?
Male: 42 years (Average)
Female: 37 years (Average)

How long had you been married before your first affair?
Male: 5.8 years (Average)
Female: 5.1 years (Average)

How many affair partners have you had?
Male: 1.8 partners (Average)
Female: 2.3 partners (Average)

What was your main reason for having an affair?


1. Sexual excitement
2. Bored with my marriage
3. An ego boost
4. Felt taken for granted
5. I had the opportunity
6. Arguments at home


1. Emotional fulfilment
2. Improve my self-esteem
3. Seeking romance
4. Felt taken for granted
5. Sexual excitement
6. Loneliness

Do you still love your spouse?
Male: Yes: 67% No: 33%
Female: Yes: 76% No: 24%

Do you love your current affair partner?
Male: Yes: 27% No: 73%
Female: Yes: 57% No: 43%

Does your spouse know about your adultery?
Male: Yes: 7% No: 93%
Female: Yes: 4% No: 96%

Have you told anyone else about your affair?
Male: Yes: 17% No: 83%
Female: Yes: 41% No: 59%

Do you plan to stay married to your spouse?
Male: Yes: 81% No: 19%
Female: Yes: 84% No: 16%

What would you do if you discovered your spouse was having an affair?
Male: Divorce 29% Stay Married 71%
Female: Divorce 41% Stay Married 59%

How often do you meet your affair partner per month?
Male: 2.3 times (Average)
Female: 1.9 times (Average)

Do you still have sex with your spouse?
Male: Yes: 36% No: 64%
Female: Yes: 28% No: 72%

Who is best in bed, your illicit lover or your spouse?
Male: Lover: 92% Wife: 8%
Female: Lover: 73% Husband:27%

How old is your affair partner compared to you?
Male: Older: 23% Younger:77%
Female: Older: 68% Younger:32%

Is monogamy a natural state for humans?
Male: Yes: 6% No: 94%
Female: Yes: 11% No: 89%

About was launched in 2009 ago and is the UK’s premier extra-marital dating agency. With almost 600,000 members, the site was created to provide a safe, discreet and non-judgmental environment, where married women and men can meet. The majority of the site’s members are 30 and 40 something professionals earning on average £10k more than the UK's median wage, and have been married for 5+ years. Unusually for a dating website, Undercover Lovers has an almost even ratio of male and female members.

Emily Pope or Roger Dugarry
+44 (0)7795 326505

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