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Men generally hit their sexual peak in their 20’s, whilst with women it’s much later, in their late 30s or early 40s., a dating website for married people seeking illicit affairs, has revealed that the majority of its female members are now looking for extra-marital lovers younger than themselves, having previously sought older men.

The website researched the profiles of all of its 663,000 members to ascertain their age when they joined and stated age preference for an affair partner. Since the launch of in 2009, a consistent majority of its male members have predictably been searching for younger lovers, whilst up to the end of 2011, most women on the site wanted to hook up with an older man.

However since the beginning of 2012 this has changed, with more than 50% of the site’s female members now looking for younger guys to cheat with.

Undercover Lovers spokesperson Emily Pope comments: ‘We are surprised to note this new trend on our site. For centuries it has been an accepted fact that unfaithful married men generally chose a younger lover, whilst adulterous women typically opted for an older one. Middle-aged Hollywood film director Rupert Sanders and Anthea Turner’s husband Grant Bovey, both of whom are currently in the news for their alleged indiscretions with 20 somethings, are just the latest high profile examples of the historical norm. ’

She continues: ‘The spate of ‘cougar’ media stories over recent months, such as married, 32 year old radio DJ Lucy Horobin’s conquest of teenage, One Direction band member Harry Styles, may be indicative of the new trend we’ve identified on Undercover Lovers, or may actually be inspiring our female members to seek out a younger stud when their husbands are no longer cutting it in the marital bed.’

Relationship expert and psychologist Dr Amelie Duval is not surprised by the survey results however. She says: ‘ Men generally hit their sexual peak in their 20’s, whilst with women it’s much later, in their late 30s or early 40s. It’s small wonder then that older married women, many of whom will have already had their children and seen them fly the nest, should seek sexual and emotional excitement with a younger lover if they’re not feeling fulfilled at home.’

Undercover Lovers member Mary, a married 45 year old physiotherapist from Essex, is secretly dating Tom, a 34 year old City trader. She says: ‘My much older husband provides me with all of the safety and security I need but none of the excitement in bed. With my young lover Tom I bring experience, wisdom and spice to the relationship whilst he brings youthful energy and sexual staying power!’

The majority of members are in their 30’s and 40’s. In the years 2009-2011, 83% of the site’s male members were seeking younger lovers, whilst only 36% of female members expressed a preference for a younger man. Since the beginning of 2012, 52% of women now wish to find partners younger than themselves whilst the figure for men has remained more or less consistent at 84%.
About was launched in 2009 ago and is the UK’s premier extra-marital dating agency. With almost 600,000 members, the site was created to provide a safe, discreet and non-judgmental environment, where married women and men can meet. The majority of the site’s members are 30 and 40 something professionals earning on average £10k more than the UK's median wage, and have been married for 5+ years. Unusually for a dating website, Undercover Lovers has an almost even ratio of male and female members.


Emily Pope or Roger Dugarry
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