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“The issue of whether or not to invite children is often an incredibly complicated one,” says Annabel Beeforth, founder of Love My Dress

With the long school holidays upon us, children across the UK are looking forward to weeks of summer fun. Yet fewer than ever will be dressing up and going to a wedding as a new survey by the award winning wedding blog Love My Dress reveals that one in three weddings are a child-free event.

So, is the need for a perfect day cutting children out or do adults just want to party in peace?

“The issue of whether or not to invite children is often an incredibly complicated one,” says Annabel Beeforth, founder of Love My Dress. “Brides often feel under pressure to provide entertainment or activities for children to keep them amused, lots of couples already have their own children so feel it’s impossible not to invite others while for some, the added cost of having to cater for lots of little people is just too much. We have heard stories from our readers of children being charged the same as adults for food and drink even if they’re eating smaller portions and drinking juice.”

And of course, the ever-present prospect of screaming children or bad behaviour puts some people off too.

“We heard from one reader who found little bite marks in their cake before dinner and another told us of a child announcing to everyone during the ceremony that they’d just done a poo!” Annabel adds.

Couples are also concerned that friends with children won’t attend if their children aren’t invited along but similar numbers also think that parents would jump at the chance to enjoy some adult-only time.

“It’s such an incredibly tough decision.” Says Annabel “But it’s a feature of weddings now that couples can absolutely choose what they want so we should celebrate this flexibility. Weddings are a great opportunity for children to spend time with family members they might not often see and to learn valuable social skills but they need to adults to set an example. Maybe if you’re planning a wild party, a no-children policy might be a good idea. Or make sure they’re tucked up in bed before you go crazy on the dancefloor!”

When asked if they would recommend inviting children to weddings, over 60% of respondents said it would depend on circumstances so here are some top tips from Love My Dress to help children (and their attending adults!) enjoy a wedding:

1. Let parents know what will be provided in terms of food and drink for little ones so they can bring anything else needed.
2. Consider entertainment from a professional company such as Artfull Splodgers or just go for colouring books or a classic film session if you’re on a budget.
3. Arrange a quiet room for feeding, changing and napping.
4. Set reasonable expectations – even adults can find the speeches a bit boring sometimes!
5. Arranging a treasure hunt or fun races can help kids burn off some energy before dinner.
6. Get the photos done early in case of any messy mishaps with pretty dresses or smart suits.
7. Ask your caterer to provide child-sized cutlery which is much easier to use and keep their place settings free of tall glasses.
8. Relax. Adults kick back at weddings too so allow children a little freedom and encourage them to mix with others.
9. Be clear and consistent on your ‘child policy’ – once you start making exceptions, other guests can easily get upset.
10. Remember, we were all children once. Try to see the funny side in any mishap and remember, it’s much better to be a laughing bride than a cross one!


Full survey results are available on request – tamrynlawrence@gmail.com

Notes For Editors – Love My Dress was founded by Annabel Beeforth in 2009 after her own wedding. Annabel is now a full-time blogger and Love My Dress receives over a quarter of a million unique views every month. As well as the blog, Annabel is a published author and her first book ‘Style Me Vintage: Weddings’ has sold more than 12,000 copies since publication in March 2013. She is Oxfam’s Wedding Ambassador and has helped raise over GBP40,000 for the charity. Annabel is available for comment and interview on a range of subjects – please contact Tamryn Lawrence tamrynlawrence@gmail.com or 07876 214597 to find out more.

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